People have this notion that being a life coach, you have all the answers because you’re so perfect that in your own little pocket of inspirational quotes, you have life’s most difficult solutions ready to be answered.
Let me confess, I am as imperfect as they come. I am as real as it appears, and if you happen to catch me in a mistake–please correct me and do so, I’d love to do better than before. And see, this is where it becomes tricky. As others aspire to look perfect in front of the camera, expect me to look as real as you would really see me in person. So becoming a life coach was easy, there was a continuous phase of metamorphosis…from the inside out. The fact that you can accept who you truly are is sometimes difficult if you’ve been pretending to be someone you’re not. This is a common mistake we often have living in the modern world, we are constantly pressured by what ‘society’ is doing in a wave of trendsetting “Must-Be’s”.
It may be overused when you encounter people speak of how they love imperfection, yet get pressured into looking flawless. There’s a little bit of a catch-22, somewhere hidden between the gray fine lines of ‘vanity’ and ‘self-care’. This falls under your self-awareness. Are we deciding for ourselves or others? Do we do things to please other’s perception of us, or do we simply enjoy the things we do for the fulfillment of our own happiness? These are simple questions you can ask yourself when you face yourself everyday. When you self-reflect and sit alone with yourself, these are the precious moments we allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
You know, maybe it’s okay to get that makeover if it truly makes you happy deep inside. Sometimes, what appears to be shallow and vain to us, is another person’s way of bringing joy to them.
Let’s judge less, love more.
Love the imperfection in your own self and that reflects how you can love other’s even more.